“When people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you, and it doesn’t mean they are bad people. It just means that their part in your story is over.” – T.D. Jakes
We’ve likely all been there.
We had a friend, a person that we connected with, confided in, and went through some incredible times with, and for reasons unknown, that union eventually faded into oblivion.
Attempts to reach out went unnoticed and, before you knew it, what was once a strong and blossoming kinship has faded into a distant memory.
As you get older, you will realize that this is a reality of life. You will meet people who you initially got along great with, created some happy memories with, and then life got in the way, and before you knew it, they were gone.
And then you find yourself wondering why?
The reality is that people do change and that often times, you specifically may have had nothing to do with it. Sometimes people get to a point in their life where they feel the need to scale back on the number of people they associate with. There is nothing wrong with this as we all have our reasons for wanting more privacy, but unfortunately, it does come with the consequence of being on the receiving end of the ‘cut’.
And if you personally did have something to do with the friendship eroding, then the lack of communication only makes it harder to come to peace with the end of it.
That’s part of the problem.
In a perfect world, people would be a lot more open about their feelings and why they did what they did, but in reality, it just doesn’t work that way. Actions speak louder than words and often times, passive aggression or the silent treatment are your only sources of communication.
That’s why when it becomes apparent that the friendship is no more, do not spend any more time and energy wondering what you did wrong. You may never know what happened, but showing that you cared enough by reaching out, makes you a winner.
There was a reason this individual came into your life when they did, so swallow that self-pity and look at the whole experience as a lesson learned. Maybe it was to help you through a tough time in your life because you had no one else to lean on. Maybe their presence in your life at that time was exactly what you needed in order to get through your own problems. If this is the case, then it can be even harder to understand why they have pulled away from you.
But you have to eventually realize that you’ve done your part and if the reciprocation just isn’t there anymore, then you have to accept it and move on. It doesn’t mean you’re any less grateful to them for having helped you in the past, it just means that their time in your life has come to an end.
Some friends are only meant to be in your life temporarily – they are meant to cross paths with you for a purpose and when that purpose has been fulfilled, that chapter in the book has ended, and it’s onto the next phase of your life.