We can all relate to going through times in our life where we think: “I would be so much happier if only I could have this.” I’ve had thoughts like this many times, as I thought I would be happier moving to a new city, or finding a relationship, or having a new job, or even just buying a new shirt.
While it doesn’t hurt to strive for new opportunities and other appealing things, it does hurt to believe that all of your happiness will be determined by getting the latest thing you want. You can completely change your life, but if you don’t do the work to find some inner peace, you are at risk of eventually finding yourself just as discontent as you were before.
According to a psychology study – our outer circumstances only control about 10 percent of our happiness. On the other hand, our internal selves are in control of about 40 percent of our own happiness. This study shows that it may be more useful to focus on ways to find peace in our life, no matter our environment.
Of course, sometimes we just want to be in a new place or own a new thing. No harm in that. But make sure you are also putting emphasis on self-care and becoming the kind of person that will make you most content.