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I Wish I Could Show You When You Are Lonely or in Darkness the Astonishing Light of Your Own Being - Hafiz

I Wish I Could Show You When You Are Lonely or in Darkness the Astonishing Light of Your Own Being – Hafiz

It actually hurts my heart to hear people hate on themselves; I’m too old/fat/stupid/ugly, I’m not enough, I’ll never be loved/popular/successful/happy etc. There are so many reasons people get to this sad point; parents, friends, divorce, unemployment, and all the other of life’s adversities. Over time self-esteem and self-belief in a person’s own abilities is eroded away until they are totally at the mercy of external forces and other’s opinions to form their own opinion of themselves, and they have just a dim memory of the glorious, bright and amazing person they used to be.

But like all learned behavior, it can be unlearned and reprogrammed. It may take time…so what? Would you be willing to trade a few months of mental rewiring for a life time of shining brightly? I know I would. Let’s just start together, today, one small step on a conscious journey.

Two things for now to get started. First, pay attention to the internal ‘tape’ you have going on that whispers these negative things to you; just notice, don’t interfere. Try it for a few days. Second, when you have a good (and no doubt shocking) idea of what you’re telling yourself and how often, hone in on one thought and each time you hear yourself say it, immediately tell yourself the opposite ten times. This will be weird to start with, again, so what? You’re the only witness.

Example: (bad divorce experience) “Nobody will ever love me again” could become “Plenty of women/men my age go on to find love and happiness” or “Someone out there will appreciate and love me” or “It may take some time, but it will happen, and in the meantime I’m going to (insert something you now have time to do)”. Reconnect with your bright, astonishing light.

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About Louise Mallam

My mission is to inspire people to greatness. I have always had a burning passion for improving people’s lives, and the key to it is to ignite a burning passion in others to want to make positive change, once they have that, the how, what and why are easy. Be Inspired. Be Happy. Be More. www.greenlight180.com
  • This is a beautiful and meaningful post, Louise. Thank you for sharing!

  • Anonymous

    thanks a lot, what a nice comment 🙂 Louise x

  • greenlight180

    thanks for the nice comment, glad it resonated, 🙂 Louise x

  • Wonderful! Every time we think, and even better feel, a loving thought we negate a negative one. Portia SLB

  • greenlight180

    so true Portia!!

  • Really amazing. I admit, I sometimes think like that. I cry and cry because I feel ugly and unwanted. But then I tell myself that I am strong confident beautiful and immediately a positive vibe comes in. This post made me realize that everyone is special in their own way and should never hate themselves! I really liked the post!! 🙂

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