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There Is a Difference Between Listening and Waiting for Your Turn to Speak - Simon Sinek

There Is a Difference Between Listening and Waiting for Your Turn to Speak – Simon Sinek

We all wish to be understood. It’s human nature. An important part of connecting with another person, after all, is knowing the reasons why they are who they are or why they do what they do.

So when another person doesn’t understand us, we might get defensive, angry, or sad. But instead of seeking to be understood, and tensing up when we’re not, a better method of communication is for us to seek to understand others first.

In so many of my arguments, I’ve simply waited to let a person finish talking before I give my point of view. I was not focused on listening or trying to understand, so everything a person said would basically fall on deaf ears. This lead to ongoing arguments and misunderstandings.

However, if we simply focus on listening, we may be surprised to find how easy it is to see another person’s point of view and find common ground. This can improve our relationships and bring us closer to the people in our lives.

There Is a Difference Between Listening and Waiting for Your Turn to Speak – Simon Sinek
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4 comments

  1. Listening is hard to do for most of us. I think we’re so insecure that we think we have to spend the time when the other person is speaking mentally defending ourselves and preparing our rebuttal. And if we think of the perfect retort, we have “won.”
    I now try to remember the peace prayer of St. Francis when I’m at loggerheads with someone. Part of it says: O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console; to be understood as to understand; to be loved as to love.”

  2. Yes, yes, yes! I positively [said positively] absolutely agree. One thing I’ve found helpful if communication has heated up is to change my position. Even a slight move to another position seems to also change perspective. I’ve often been surprised to find that active listening from a different vantage point has been rewarded with more information. Beats counting to 100 for sure. Without that, you jump in with less than you need to know to truly connect!

  3. Absolutely! This is something I used to be pretty good at but have lately gotten a bit out of practice with. Thanks for the reminder.

  4. Life is interesting as we all are interesting. Knowing my opinions and my believes is nothing new to me.
    But, if i listen, really listen to the person next to me, that could enlarge my horizons.
    I can look at things from new perspectives.

    I really consider that listening is much more fascinating than talking, or worse, rambling…

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