We all wish to be understood. It’s human nature. An important part of connecting with another person, after all, is knowing the reasons why they are who they are or why they do what they do.
So when another person doesn’t understand us, we might get defensive, angry, or sad. But instead of seeking to be understood, and tensing up when we’re not, a better method of communication is for us to seek to understand others first.
In so many of my arguments, I’ve simply waited to let a person finish talking before I give my point of view. I was not focused on listening or trying to understand, so everything a person said would basically fall on deaf ears. This lead to ongoing arguments and misunderstandings.
However, if we simply focus on listening, we may be surprised to find how easy it is to see another person’s point of view and find common ground. This can improve our relationships and bring us closer to the people in our lives.