Like a peach, our egos can bruise easily. This happened to me recently and at first, I was full of indignation. It was hard to listen to what was being said, because of the way it was said. And I think that was the kicker.
If we feel the criticism of anything important to us is unjust or delivered too bluntly, it hurts. But the comments weren’t made maliciously, the comments were honest and the comments had been solicited. I mean if you say to someone, “Do I look fat in this?” and they say, “Yes.” You may feel crushed like a bug, but you did seek out their opinion. It’s just you’re disappointed that someone thinks you look fat when you thought you looked fab.
So, next time I’m seeking feedback, I will choose carefully whose opinions to seek out. Not because I want them to lie or say everything is great, but because I can take true honesty better from some people than others. I’ll be prepared and ready to deal with the self-doubt that criticism invariably causes. Then be able to act on advice, because we all need criticism to move forward.
But some people, no matter how much you want them to, really don’t like peaches. Then you have to let it go because they’ll only bring you down. Hey, I don’t like mango…