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You Mustn't Look for Perfection in Your Friends. You Must Look for Affection - Ruskin Bond

You Mustn’t Look for Perfection in Your Friends. You Must Look for Affection – Ruskin Bond

Often, we get upset because our friends don’t do something we want them to do. We reason that if they really were our friends they would readily do it for us. Yet, at the same time, we want our friends to accept us for whom we are. But then, we should do the same for them, shouldn’t we?

True friendship lies in empathy and acceptance – getting rid of our expectations and preconceived notions. It doesn’t matter if your friend is too absent-minded to call you back or if they don’t gush about you on social media platforms, as long as you know that they’ve shown you real love and affection. True friendship has this real, honest, and indescribable quality that it makes it so beautiful.

Let’s relax our constant need for perfection in friendships and embrace the quirks and the small things that make them wonderful.

You Mustn’t Look for Perfection in Your Friends. You Must Look for Affection – Ruskin Bond
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18 comments

  1. So true. It’s a gift when you find friends that show such affection towards you, and appreciation for you just being you- no expectations or ideals to live up to. When you show that yourself, it seems often others appear similarly to that, in the law of attraction. You attract what you put out!

  2. Please never invoke old friends or enemies, for any reason whatsoever. That is what Goddess Parvati did – even her own father Daksha, that is the past. She visited that Yagya against Lord Shiva’s advice, and what happened next? She was insulted, Shiva was insulted, and Parvati felt so ashamed, she jumped into the fire.

    This shows that past is past, no matter the closeness. One moves forward, and wishes for one’s friends to move them. And not invoke this or that old ally, teacher, friend. We left them behind, and the situation (again, not necessarily the people, who may be very good, its just the circumstances) is such that at this point, they can only ever be our enemies.

  3. At this point, we desire nothing of our friends, but silence. Let us work in peace for a couple of weeks more, with no disturbance. Its a delicate situation, which requires absolute peace of mind. We have no demands or regrets from our friends – we are just working & concentrating very hard. Silence is all we desire, for our work to succeed.

  4. You are so right! And it takes a good friend not to try and change a friend!

  5. Butterflyinspiration2015 that’s a beautiful way of putting it! 🙂
    Thank you, connieszone!

  6. A lovely sweet reminder to us all????????

  7. That’s true, The Quiet Christian.
    Thank you, Shumila!

  8. That was so profound with truth in delivery. Truly profound!

  9. What I feel is no one will look for perfection if they at least get some affection,

    Any ways nice way of expression.

  10. I like the idea because I wouldn’t want my friends to have expectations of me other than just loving and accepting them

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