I believe it’s a very human thing to have high hopes and expectations about different situations and happenings, and of life in general. And why shouldn’t we? We want the best out of life, of course, but these expectations can easily become too much – endless even – so that once we fulfill an expectation, it’s still not good enough and we’re left wanting more and more.
We all have a certain idea of what life needs to be in order for us to be happy and at peace. Usually, it involves good relationships, a great job that pays well, a nice house, lots of spare money in the bank…the list can really go on and on. But peace and happiness does not stem from our idea of what life should be, but from what life actually is. Peace and happiness is right here and now – not somewhere else, under other circumstances, or further in the future. If you really want to feel at peace in life, it’s a matter of seeing what you have now, and finding true happiness within that.
To do this, we need to retrain our minds. Since it is a very human thing to dream and expect, that circle of thoughts means that we grow up learning to do what our parents have done, and so will our children learn from us. That’s why we need to retrain our minds because this idea of life needing to be more has been fed to us – unconsciously – most likely since the day we were born.
As you wake up in the morning, consider the day ahead of you. Do you know what will become of it yet? Perhaps you have an idea of the certain events or the people you will meet, but do you really know what will happen as your day unfolds? Rather than expecting certain outcomes, respect the fact that you can never really know, and make peace with that. Then, I suggest that you give the things you know for sure some attention. As you wake up, what things are you grateful for in life? What makes you feel good inside?