The monsters we create have a way of taking us hostage and blurring our vision. They live in our heads and poison our perception of the world and each other. One monster blurs our vision so badly, it deviates us from OUR path and projects another’s life onto our life’s screen – Jealousy.
This jealousy monster loves to feast on our doubt. It pushes us to question our worth and takes us on a ride to see another’s highlight reel. It shows perfection has been bestowed on someone else and skipped us. It makes us believe their dreams were attained but we lack the luck. It talks us out of our vision and blinds us with its friend, failure. It taunts us when we meet someone new, when we try to embark on a new venture, and when other monsters like, self-doubt, fear, and insecurities, start conversations.
But why does it live so well? Why does jealousy take us hostage and blur our vision? Because what we focus on grows. When we focus on our doubts, it grows. It feeds this monster of jealousy. When we focus on our insecurities, it grows and invites this monster in to beat up on our self-esteem.
It lives in our head, but will be expelled when we show it how we are able to celebrate others without doubting ourselves. How we may recognize there is no such thing as perfection, only perfectly imperfect ones. How failure is not something to fear, but something to learn from. The more we fail, the more we learn. The more we learn, the more we grow; and that someone else’s success is never a reflection of where we are on OUR path, but an invitation to practice empathy, selflessness, and love.
This jealousy monster can be slayed and our vision can be restored. The way is to celebrate ourselves, and each other; to use our fire to shine bright and light another’s candle, and to use our voice to cheer another on and to lead the way.