Whether in school, work, or in another situation, chances are that you’ve been criticized or belittled at one point or another. While sometimes constructive criticism is meant to help a person improve themselves, the act of an individual putting down another human being is never beneficial.
Many parents teach their children to ignore those who pass along negativity and judgment. This is excellent advice. It’s also advice that’s much easier said than done – especially when cruelty is passed from one loved one to another.
Loved ones – their job is to support, love, and care for us. Just as they should try to offer us their kindness, so should we offer them the same. Sadly, there are some people who find it impossible to accept others’ difficulties and imperfections.
It can be hard not to expect kindness and respect from those close to us. We love these individuals and this is why it can be so heartbreaking when they don’t seem to reciprocate those feelings or when they seem set on bringing us down. It’s one thing to ignore the cruelty of strangers and another to ignore the cruelty of friends and family.
So what can we do? Should we not expect love? Should we distance ourselves from those close to us? Not necessarily. Instead, we need to build ourselves up and depend on ourselves to remember how awesome, talented, and hardworking we are!
In addition, we need to learn to kindly stand up for ourselves. Though it can be hard to stand up to the ones we love, it needs to be done. We need to show those around us that we are worth their respect. If the people closest to us can’t listen to our request for love, perhaps they’re not worth our time after all.