Different people have very different experiences and circumstances in life. Different people, therefore, carry different luggage around with them. Some people choose to deal with it as soon as they can, while others choose to ignore what the circumstances are causing within them – even if it is the type of hurt that might cause us life-long pain.
Of course, different people have different strategies. But the one truth is that when we go through painful situations or circumstances in life, these must be dealt with at some stage in order for us to move on as a whole human being.
And in order for us to move on from the things that happen to us, we must own it. We must own the situation or the experience. We cannot let the situation take control of us. Instead, we must take it in, sort it through, and deal with it fully so that we can eventually heal. And yes, it will probably feel impossible to swallow the past that has caused you pain – especially the harder the situation it is – but we must feed it to ourselves in small portions, and keep chewing even when it grows in our mouths, until it suddenly breaks up into small enough pieces to let it slip down.
This is how we sort through the things that happen to us. This is how we move on and how we heal from past hurts. It may seem a lot easier to just let it be and ignore it, but sweeping the issues it’s caused you under the rug will never sort anything out for you. That pile will only keep building and building until one day you end up stumbling over that big lump under your rug, and you’ll be forced to deal with the same thing but in much larger portions.
We cannot ignore our painful past, that pain will only keep affecting our present and future. So give yourself time to grieve – that is also an important step in the process – but once that time has passed, you must allow yourself to heal to truly move on a free soul at heart. Once you’ve managed to chew and swallow your past pains, they will nurture you. It will build you up, make you stronger, and help you better face the daily life ahead of you.