Do you ever say bad or mean things to yourself, in your mind? Do you ever criticize or put yourself down when you do something you’re not entirely happy with? Are you your own worst critic?
I think most of us do this, some more and others less, but we are all guilty of being our own worst critic. We are such perfectionists when it comes to ourselves, expecting perfect results out of everything that we do.
But have you ever stopped to listen to the things you say to yourself? And have you ever thought of how you would react if it was another person who did whatever you are criticizing yourself for? Would you say the same mean things if it was your friend or colleague you were talking to?
Probably not, right? So why do you say these things to yourself? Why do you call yourself stupid, dumb, an idiot, worthless, useless, ugly, or fat (or whatever it is)? And more importantly, how does it make you feel?
If you analyze your life, and how you feel about yourself, you will most likely find that if you are a self-criticizer, things are not going the way that you want them to. You might find that you don’t like your job, or your relationships, or the life you lead altogether. Why do you think that is? Could it be because you don’t think you’re good enough, or that you are undeserving?
But what if you shifted your thinking; what if you tried actually approving of yourself, and showed yourself some love; what if you found a way to feel worthy and enough; what if you acknowledged the fact that you always do your best, but that things just can’t be perfect all the time; what if you cut yourself some slack, like I’m sure you would with your friends.
What do you think would happen?
Try showing yourself some love. When you find yourself about to think something bad about yourself, call yourself out, apologize, and change your approach to change your life.